Dilemma about getting married (current ahmadi)

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Dilemma about getting married (current ahmadi)

Postby SeekingFreedom » 13 Aug 2013, 19:58

Salam everyone,

I am new to this forum. I am in a dilemma. I am currently an ahmadi and I am researching on ahmadiyyat. I have found alot of evidence against the promised messiah but I am still not 100% satisfied and have not yet decided what to do. I am 50/50. Currently my parents are looking for my proposal and I am very confused as I do not want to marry into a family who are very strict ahmadis. I cannot marry someone who is not an ahmadi, it is not an option at all.

Is anyone going through the same experience or has gone through the same experience? Any advice would be helpful,

I am praying to Allah that he shows me the right way, please pray for me,

Jazakallah.

Wasalam.
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Re: Dilemma about getting married (current ahmadi)

Postby Zohaib » 14 Aug 2013, 09:45

Today is 14 August, so i hope you get your freedom from Ahmediya Cult soon or later, May Allah Show you the Right path, I wonder Whether mirza Ghulam Ahmed qaidyani was Promised Massiah or Promised Mess, who has effect not only your life, there are many people in this cult who are suffering, before you make a decision about your life , please do read more about Ahemdiyat. if you need any one of us help , we will sincerely help you.

Thanks Best Regards
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Re: Dilemma about getting married (current ahmadi)

Postby SeekingFreedom » 02 Sep 2013, 23:20

Thanks for your reply.
I agree.. There are loads of members in the jamaat who want to leave but cant because of their families or other reasons and are suffering in silence. I'm just glad I've found this forum where I can read and research more on ahmadiyyat. Thanks for your help and concern!
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Re: Dilemma about getting married (current ahmadi)

Postby OpenedEyes » 03 Sep 2013, 11:22

I was born an Ahmadi and remained one for many, many years but AH I was able to see it for what it really is and am now living as a Muslim.The problem with Ahmadis and trying to find one who is of a similar mindset to yours is:

1) the alleged good ones are usually messed up freaks who portray themselves to be very good in the Jamaat. I know personally of very high status admin members of the Jamaat who have gay sons. Astagfirallah. These same boys appear on talk shows and Q and As with Mas. I wouldnt touch those kind of boys with a 100ft pole. They are usually hardcore Ahmadis through words but their actions are that of total disbelievers. Think White shalwar kameez and black waistcoats...with gay porno mags under the pillows at Jamia School. Keep well away. They are usually the first to shoot their mouths off about Khilafat Zindabad and Huzoor this and Jamaat that. They are pig headed and arrogant.

2) the very laid back ones are usually devoid of religion/islam. they have been cheated of TRUE ISLAM aka ISLAM and are lost sheep. They often dabble in casual sex, clubs, shisha etc etc. you will see them at Jalsas and Eids but usually only because their dads have put them on the guilter or because they meet up with their childhood Jamaat mates to chill in the car parks. These ones are definitely by far better than the first example in general sense but they are usually quite far gone off path and dont get or understand the difference between Islam and Ahmadiyyat- to them its "whatever" we are "all muslim init". they are even harder to convince of the truth than the above mentioned type.

3) the inbetweeners. the ones who show up to Jalsa but their hearts arent in it. the ones who know there is something not right but cant quite figure it out. the ones who might have figured it out but dont know what to do with their new way of thinking. The ones who wonder if there are others out there like them, and if so- who are they and where are they. They often visit these forums to find like minded views, find some relief in knowing they arent the only ones and then continue back in their routine as inbetweeners. they want religion but cant quite figure out what the use of it is either given the lies the Jamaat has spun. They too need some more convincing too, just to be sure that they arent risking a horrid death or some misfortune for rejecting the True Islam. They are unlikely to expose that they doubt or have rejected.

4) the ones who have openly rejected (very few) or have rejected but have no where else to go because of family and fear of losing loved ones.

So in other words, you are going to be hard pressed finding someone who is thinking the same as you until you actually talk to them but then you run the risk of exposing yourself and who knows what they might say/do. The last thing you want is your parents to be told that the rishta isnt going through by his parents because you are anti khilafat. But there are certain things you can do... like stay away from examples 1 and 2.

Good Luck sister.

I would
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Re: Dilemma about getting married (current ahmadi)

Postby SeekingFreedom » 06 Dec 2013, 20:19

To OpenedEyes,

Extremely sorry for this very late reply. You have identified the different types of ahmadis spot on! I think I could describe myself as number 3 :lol: Thank you very much for your advice and help. I am still in the same situation and I am just praying Allah helps me.

Thanks again for your advice!
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